My Birth Story (Part 1)

My Birth Story (Part 1)

My birth story. Something that many people have asked about. And the one subject I haven’t really explored on my blog. Not because I don’t want people to know about it. It just wasn’t a straight forward, picture perfect experience, so it seems a bit of an effort to retell really (but then who does have a straight forward birth story anyway? It’s not like the stork delivers a baby like you’ve primed it and requested next day delivery…) So I guess my story will add to all of the other fabulous, strong women who have endured this crazy adventure into motherhood.

I decided to work as far as I could to my due date so that I would spend as much time as possible with my newborn babies. As if I had planned it (you know I like to be organised), I said goodbye to my fabulous work colleagues on the Friday, bought the last minute baby items over that weekend, finally finished the whole of Gossip Girl on the Monday and  had the twins’ surprise arrival on the Tuesday. I’d say that was pretty good planning.

Twin bump during the second trimester

I chose to work as close to my due date as possible so that I could get as much maternity leave as I could with my babies.

I was 35 weeks plus 5 days when the twins were born. Let me take you back to that time. It was a Monday, my first official day of maternity leave. It was a strange feeling not getting up to go to work, although I must admit, by that time my body was so exhausted carrying two little ones that even breathing was strenuous. So I tried to take it easy. Nap when I needed. Ate when I was hungry. It was now a waiting game.

I remember cooking dinner for Pete as soon as he arrived home from work. It was a typical evening. We sat together, ate dinner, chatted about the day, tidied up and went to bed. The third trimester is an extremely frustrating period as you can never get more than 2 hours sleep at a time due to your poor bladder being forever squashed by your growing bump. As I was getting up every couple of hours to use the bathroom, it meant that Pete was also woken up every two hours. So sleep really was a treat for us.

2.45am I woke up for the 4th time that night to use the loo. As I got into the bathroom my tummy didn’t feel right. Maybe it was something I ate at dinner? That’s when it happened. The moment that you’ve been waiting for throughout the whole of your pregnancy. The sign that your babies are on their way. My waters broke.

Oh. My. Goodness.

It was like I went into ultra efficient mode. I called for Pete, who came stumbling across the hallway in a sleepy state, not knowing what to do. I remember distinctively saying as he fumbled around trying to tap the hospital number into his phone: ‘I am going to be really bossy now, ok?’ Of course the poor thing had no other response than ‘Yes ok’. As soon as he got off the phone to the midwife I started giving the first instruction: ‘Right Pete, you need to get dressed’ ‘Next, please can you make sure my hospital notes are in the bag’ ‘Can you top up my water bottle for the journey?’ the instructions went on. As I brushed my hair (I know, I’m vain, even when I’m about to give birth…) and finished dressing I remember looking around our bedroom one last time thinking: This is going to be the last time we step into this home as a family of two. Totally and utterly bonkers.

We stumbled into our uber, sat in the back holding hands and giggled to each other. This was so surreal. I was surprisingly really calm as I wasn’t having any contractions (lucky for Pete I’d say). With it being just after 3am, the streets were very quiet so the drive was very smooth. When we arrived at the hospital we had to wander the hallways trying to find the right ward. We went up to one floor, realised that wasn’t the correct one, so had to hobble my way back down to the floor below (remembering that my waters had actually burst so I really needed to see someone quiet urgently).

top-surface

I wanted to make sure that everything was ready and prepared for the twins’ arrival.

Eventually we found the correct ward, took a seat and waited to go in. There was a young girl and her boyfriend also waiting to be taken in. She was having regular contractions bless her and her poor partner had no idea what to do. He just paced the floor, nervous sweat dripping from his forehead, obviously wishing for a midwife to appear soon to save him (and obviously his girlfriend) from this ordeal. I know it’s us women that go through the labour but I do feel for the partners who have to stand back and be a spare part, not having the slightest idea on how to actually be helpful. I felt for them. Surprisingly we were actually taken through first, it seemed having twins gives you a free pass.

The hours went by and many different midwives, doctors and consultants came to speak to us. After having a scan they explained that although Twin 1 (we didn’t know the gender) was in the head down position, ready to be delivered, Twin 2 had decided to wedge their feet underneath Twin 1’s head, therefore creating a blockage (can you guess which baby was Twin 2?). So delivery by cesarean section it was.

It happened to be an audit day for the hospital which meant there were no scheduled operations in theatre…so we were able to get gowned up and taken straight down.

Oh my. We are actually going to have babies…like RIGHT NOW. So, so surreal. I don’t think I processed it really. Pete and I just went along with what the doctors were telling us to do.

That’s when we started walking down the corridor towards the theatre room.

Here we go.

Find out what happens next in Part 2, coming up next week!

 

What Was Your Birthing Experience?

What was your birthing experience like?

 

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Bedtime Routine For Baby Twins

Bedtime Routine For Baby Twins

If you have a new baby, you’re probably wondering what a typical bedtime routine looks like. If you have twins, I am sure you are even more intrigued by how others are surviving. This is my experience of a bedtime routine with twins.

If you follow my Foxfairy Twins Instagram stories you’ll know that sleep has been a tricky area for us. When you’re surrounded by young babies that sleep from 7pm – 7am (yes, I actually have a friend whose baby actually does sleep that long. Not bitter in the slighted) and endless information and guides which will advise you on how long a baby should sleep for, it’s no wonder this subject can be frustrating for a parent.

However I did understand that establishing a bedtime routine early on was crucial to getting more sleep (for me and the babies). I personally love routine. It makes me feel like I have some idea of what I’m doing. So I was happy to start introducing this into our day.

Our Bedtime Routine

6.00pm:

Our babies have their last bottle of the day (we feed and then bath them so that they do not associate needing to be fed in order to get to sleep). Once the twins have finished having their milk I run the bath (my full post on How to Bathe Twins goes into more detail about how we do this with two babies) and then get out all of the items I will need and set it out ready on the changing top. This includes: two sleep suits, two vests, nappy changing items, coconut oil/lotion and a towel (I use one towel between the two of them…they each only use up half a towel as they’re still quite small).

 

How to bathe twins on your own: Preparation is vital! Before I bathe the babies I always make sure I have laid out all of the things I will need so that I am ready. Two sleep suits, two vests, nappy changing items and a towel.

How to bathe twins on your own: Preparation is vital! Before I bathe the babies I always make sure I have laid out all of the things I will need so that I am ready. Two sleep suits, two vests, nappy changing items and a towel.

6.20pm:

Choose one baby (normally the one who seems to be in the happier mood…although at this time of night that’s pretty tricky…) to strap into a baby seat and put them into the bathroom / just outside of the bathroom. I do this to watch over that baby whilst I’m bathing the other one. (Of course you would never leave a baby on its own in the bath, but having the other one near to you helps to keep them calm whilst they’re waiting to be bathed). I also try and set up something to keep this baby entertained, such as propping up a book for them to look at, or placing them in front of the mirror so that they can look at themselves.

Twin baby entertained by sitting in front of a mirror

Bedtime Routine: how to bathe baby twins on your own. I keep one baby entertained whilst I bathe the other baby. Putting them in front of a mirror works rather well!

I then take the first baby into the bedroom, take their clothes off, wipe around their nappy area, dispose of their nappy and take them into the bathroom, ready for their bath.

I begin by testing the water with my wrist to make sure the water is at the right temperature. I then lower the baby into the baby bath seat (we used a baby bath to begin with as they were so small, but ours have now grown out of it so we use a seat instead) and leave them to settle into the water for about half a minute. At first the babies would just lie there like dead fish, not moving at all. But now they kick their little legs and smile. It’s adorable.

Once they have settled into the water, I wipe the baby’s face with a flannel and then pour water over their body and then use a baby soap/body wash to wash their neck, underarms, fingers, Michelin thigh rolls and in between their toes (You would NOT believe how dusty babies get under their necks and in between their fingers and toes. At one point it looked like I had let them play inside the Dyson hoover…oops). Then rinse off.

I then move onto washing their hair (or heads in our case…still waiting for the hair to sprout) and really scrub behind their ears…it gets really gross behind there. I have also recently discovered the magic of Lucy Bee Coconut Oil for cradle cap. Francis had a bad case of it, but after coating his scalp with the oil after the bath, it has now almost completely cleared up! Amazing!

6.30pm:

I then take the baby out of the bath, wrap them up and take them to the nursery where I’ll quickly cover them in lotion or coconut oil, put their sleep suit on and tuck into bed. Once both babies are in their cot I will read them a quick story, say good night to them and leave them to settle down to sleep.

Mum reading to baby twins. Baby twins bed time routine. reading to babues

It is never too early to start reading to your babies! Such a lovely activity to spend with your little ones as they wind down for bedtime.

I love this routine as it helps the babies to settle for bedtime. They will now fall asleep as soon as they get into their cot. At first I followed this routine every day to teach them how to wind down for the night (I know this goes over the bathing recommendations, but I really wanted to get the babies into a bedtime routine. I just made sure I hardly used any soap or lotion to prevent their skin drying out). Because we have been consistent with this, we now only need to bathe the babies every other day and they still continue to settle well. On their non-bathing nights I will still cover the babies in lotion/oil before putting their sleep suits on. I am sure they now associate this smell with bed time. As I have practised this over the last few months, I can now get them both fed, bathed and into bed in just under an hour!

What Does Your Routine Look Like?

What is your bedtime routine like?

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10 Reasons Why I’m #RockingMotherhood

10 Reasons Why I’m #RockingMotherhood

The #RockingMotherhood tag had been doing the rounds for a few months now ever since the lovely Pat at White Camelias published a post listing 10 reasons she was rocking this motherhood gig. It was such a popular post she started the tag so that other mums could celebrate their wins too.

I don’t know about you but as soon as I typed the title of this post I felt a little uncomfortable. Although I’m extremely flattered to be taking part in this link, as a parent I think it’s incredibly hard to acknowledge the things that you’re doing well. Parent anxiety, mum guilt, the constant battle of how to spend your precious time with raising your children, spending time with loved ones, working, keeping up with domestic chores, making sure the bills are paid etc etc all make it extremely hard to feel like you’re actually even capable of doing a half decent job (you can read my Life With 4 Month Old Twins post to get a better insight into my daily antics).

However, as I look at my mutha.hood pin and my Yesmummum affirmation cards I think to myself: Actually, we should celebrate what we ARE doing well. Positive minds make for a positive life. So here I am, giving myself a gold star and a high five to the things that make me go ‘WHOOP! I’m doing a great job’. So thank you Alana from Burnished Chaos and Aleena from Mummy Mama Mum for the tags.

rocking motherhood. why we are rocking motherhood. how to look after twins

Normally with these sorts of things I think it’s best if you ask the people who are ultimately making this judgement of you. From the mouth of babes and all that. Although Beatrice and Francis are not yet able to talk, I think if I asked them what makes mummy good at looking after them, here’s what they would say:

Mumma is #RockingMotherhood Because…

  1. You are always smiling, even though we keep you awake at night and poo on you. We like it when you smile because it makes us smile too.

  2. Although you may be tired you always try to make sure we are entertained.  Even if it is just putting us in front of the washing machine so that you can have 5 minutes to wash our baby bottles. Don’t worry, we’ll get our own back when we don’t find it entertaining anymore and you have to find a different appliance to put us in front of. Ha. (Read our 21 Activities for Babies for more inspiration)

  3. You give us so many kisses and cuddles every day. This is definitely better than any toy or game. Thank you for making us feel like the best babies in the world.

  4. You are very brave. We know we are a handful, especially when you need to feed us both out of the house. But you can now do it on your own. Well done mummy! We hope we are just as brave as you one day.

  5. You make us giggle and laugh with your crazy dancing and singing. Thank you for not worrying about looking like a fool to keep us happy.

  6. You are fabulous at multitasking. If one of us needs cuddles and the other one needs another feed, you are somehow able to do this plus wash up, put the laundry on and start cooking dinner for you and daddy, all at the same time.

  7. You know how important it is to give us time to learn new things. You recognise that we will learn things differently and that is ok. Thank you for spending this special time with us.

  8. You know that if we are grizzly, it won’t last for long and we’ll make you smile again with our antics. We know how much you love it when we make funny noises or pass extremely loud wind whilst we’re out in public.

  9. You make choices based on us as a family of four now, not just you and daddy. Thank you for spending your Prosecco money on teething gel and nappy bags. We know it’s a huge sacrifice for you.

  10. You recognise and treat us like individuals. Even though we are twins you know that we like different things, act in different ways and have different personalities. Thank you for making us feel very special in our own little way.

So there you have the 10 reasons why Beatrice and Francis think I’m rocking motherhood. You know, it’s the hardest job in the world being a parent, but I feel like the luckiest person in the world to be doing it.

To make sure the motherhood love continues to spread, I’m going to invite some other lovely ladies to carry the tag on. I look forward to reading your reasons why you rock. They are:

Ellie at How To Grow A Person

Katy at keepingabreastwiththetwins

dansoutofcontrol at blondehairbrowneyes

Mumvibess at Mum Vibes

fibee2712 at The Morse Code

Happy tagging!

The Rules For The Tag

  • Thank the blogger that tagged you and link to their blog.

  • List 10 things you believe make you a good mother (this is just a guideline. It can be more or less than 10. I really don’t mind).

  • Tag 3 – 5 bloggers to join in the #RockingMotherhood Tag.

  • Grab the #RockingMotherhood badge and add it to your post or sidebar.

I would love to read what you come up with and so would Pat so if you tweet your post to @whitecamelias and @FoxfairyTwins we will be happy to RT them for you. Thank you for reading x

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How To Play With Your Newborn: 21 Activities For Young Babies

Are you a parent with a young baby and not sure how to entertain them in between their feeds and naps? Here I have listed 21 activities that have kept our baby twins entertained over the last few months:

  1. Singing time. Yes, you might not be Beyoncé but I promise your baby won’t judge you. Babies love to hear the sound of your voice and listening to you sing actually aids language development. Don’t worry if you’re not familiar with many nursery rhymes, I just sing what the babies and I are doing at the time…e.g. ‘Oh wow aren’t you cute, you’ve puked on me and your baby suit’/ ‘What is that smell? What is that smell? Is it Francis’ nappy that smells? What a stinky baby, That is the smell’ / Beatrice  is a dribble dribble monster, who likes to pull my hair, she is extremely cheeky and vomits everywhere’. You get the idea.

  2. Reading. If you follow my Foxfairy Twins Instagram page you’ll know how much I love reading with my babies. It’s such a wonderful activity that allows you to have quality time with your little one. And it is never too early to start reading with a baby! Of course at this stage it doesn’t really matter if you’re reading Baby’s First Book or the latest IKEA furniture guide (nice one Pete). They will just enjoy listening to your voice.

    Mum reading to baby twins. Baby twins bed time routine. reading to babues

    It is never too early to start reading to your babies! Such a lovely activity to do with your little babies.

  3. Going for a walk. Do not underestimate the power of fresh air when your babies have been screaming for the whole afternoon (that dreaded witching hour…which btw, is NEVER just an hour…) and will not settle with cuddles, bottle feeds or nappy changes. It is my number 1 go to for grizzly babies (and great for your endorphins too…although wine would obviously help more…)

  4. Bath time. I love bath time. It’s a chance for me to spend quality time with each baby. Our twins love being in the water. If you haven’t already, you can read my post on Bathing Twins for more information about how I organise this with two young babies. At first they would just lie there like dead fish, but now they’re stronger they are starting to kick their legs under the water in excitement. It’s very cute.

  5. Dancing. Not only does shaking around to Radio 1’s Dance Anthems (I miss partying) entertains the babies, it helps to shake off some baby weight too (unless you counteract it with wine at the end of the night…oops).

  6. Lights. I have recently discovered the fabulous entertainment value in fairy lights. I try and experiment with them around the flat. I’ll hang them over the sofa / along the cot / put them into a jar / dangle them above the babies etc etc. That was the best £3 I have spent in IKEA.

  7. Colourful bibs. Tummy time has not been the most favourable activity in our household which has forced me to think of inventive ways of making it more interesting for the babies. I found draping a colourful bib over the arm of the sofa encourages the babies to keep their heads up for longer whilst they tried to focus on the pattern.

  8. Appliances. Ah. The washing machine. Post babies, you are not only on every day to cope with the amount of laundry we now have to contend with, but also to keep the babies entertained whilst I wash their bottles. The twins love watching the machine spin (I think they like the noise too). Go on, give it a try!

    Babies entertained by washing machine

    Parent Hacks: Use the washing machine as entertainment for your babies!

  9. White noise. I cannot express the amount of love I have for white noise. It has saved us from numerous meltdowns and sleepless nights. Downloaded onto my phone, if the babies are a little grizzly or over tired and cannot calm themselves down, in a matter of minutes of turning it on they go from inconsolable nightmares to angelic, sleeping babies. It is my secret weapon.

  10. Propped up books. Sometimes when the babies are lying on the floor I’ll prop open a book and put it next to them. They enjoy twisting to one side to look at it (whilst helping them to practise how to roll at the same time). Concertina books are fantastic because you can open them out and wrap it around where the babies are on the floor or hang it above their heads for them to look at.

  11. Bubbles. What a mesmerising and inexpensive way to entertain little babies. Simply sit them in their baby chairs or on the floor and blow bubbles for them to watch. This is fantastic way to help them to focus their eyes on moving objects.

  12. Hairdryer. Very similar to the white noise tip. In the mornings I usually have the babies in the bedroom with me whilst I’m getting ready and as soon as I put the hairdryer on they drift off into a sleepy slumber.

  13. Extractor fan. Again, similar to using white noise. Sometimes I’ll walk around the flat with the babies whilst listening to the extractor fan. They love it.

  14. Shower room. When I’m getting ready in the mornings I sometimes have to put the babies just inside the bathroom with me to keep them entertained. The noise and steam from the shower keeps them calm and for enough time for me to shampoo AND condition my hair. #winning

  15. Lying in a different room. This might sound obvious, but if the babies seem a little bored but it’s too late in the day to go out, I lie them down in a different room in the flat. Just putting them down on a mat in the bathroom or onto our bed allows them have a chance to see different objects (and distraction is everything).

  16. Baby massage. You may have already read my post about A Day In The Life With Twins, if so you’ll know that my take on baby massage is basically rub in a bit of lotion or oil and job done. I do notice though, when I start massaging the babies they do enjoy it. So that’s a nice, calming activity to do with your babies.

  17. Rocking in the pram. I must admit I don’t really do this that often, however, when we were in the process of moving house and there were boxes everywhere, we strapped the babies in their pram to keep them entertained. They quite enjoyed it. I think they liked the mixture of movement plus seeing the room from a different view.

  18. Lying next to another baby. Obviously if you have twins or more than one child then this is an easy one to pull off. If not you could try the next one…

    baby twins. boy girl twins 5 month old twins

    Lying next to each other can be entertaining for little ones.

  19. Attend a local baby group. Now, I didn’t actually start doing this until very recently as the babies were always asleep so it didn’t seem worth while. However now they stay awake for about an hour at a time so I’ve recently started going and the babies love seeing and hearing different things in this new environment.

  20. Meet a friend for coffee and cake. Babies love to be out of the house and even if they stay in their pram sleeping for the time you have a coffee, cake and cheerful chat, it’s the perfect activity for all of you.

  21. My most favourite: Cuddles. Nothing will be more satisfying than having baby cuddles. It’s such a wonderful bonding experience for parent and baby (and gives you an excuse to take 5).

 

Do You Have Any Suggestions?

Do you have any baby activities to share? I’d love to hear your suggestions.

 

 

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Twin Night Time Feeding

Night Feeding Twins

If you have a new baby, you’re probably wondering what a typical night time feeding routine looks like. If you have twins, I am sure you are even more intrigued by how others are surviving. This is my experience of night time feeding twins.

If you follow my Foxfairy Twins Instagram stories you’ll know that sleep has been a tricky area for us. When you’re surrounded by young babies that sleep from 7pm – 7am (yes, I actually have a friend whose baby actually does sleep that long. Not bitter in the slighted) and endless information and guides which will advise you on how long a baby should sleep for, it’s no wonder this subject can be frustrating for a parent.

Someone once said to me ‘you don’t know what the word tired means until you have a baby’ and gosh were they right. Before babies I was a serious napper and could fall asleep in 10 seconds for little bit of shut eye. I also needed my 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep at night else I would go from being Miss Honey to Miss Trunchball. Not pretty.

Night feeding with twins. Once the babies have been put to bed, do not take them out of their room to feed at night. This helps them to stay a little sleepy. I use the curved cushions to prop the babies up, feed them and then put them straight back down to sleep.

Night feeding with twins. Once the babies have been put to bed, do not take them out of their room to feed at night. This helps them to stay a little sleepy. I use the curved cushions to prop the babies up, feed them and then put them straight back down to sleep.

Thrown into the new whirlwind of having two newborn babies and well, you can imagine the shock. Feeding every 2 hours to begin with (am I the only one who didn’t realise that it means every 2 hours after you BEGAN the previous feed, not from when they finish? This means you could start feeding at 2.45am, the babies take almost an hour to feed, then include the nappy changes and settle back down to sleep, that takes you up to 4am, only to be awoken 45 minutes later for the next feed. It. Is. Horrendous. Now I understand why sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture).

The only reason Pete and I survived this newborn demand was because we took it in shifts to look after the babies. As I was expressing and topping up with formula it allowed Pete to help me feed them (see my previous posts about Feeding Twins for more information about how we did this). We would each watch the babies for 6 hours so the other one could sleep for more than 45 minutes at a time. You would not believe how incredible you feel if you have been surviving on 3 disrupted hours of sleep to having a chunk of 3-5 hours of solid, precious sleep. It literally saved us from going insane. It also emphasised the importance of team work between Pete and I, especially in the early days.

Fast forward to month 3, we began our bedtime routine (see my post about Bathing Twins) in order to establish good bed time habits. Once they were in their cot for bed time we would only feed them in their bedroom, using the curved cushions to prop them up. Once finished, I would gently pat them on the back and put them straight back down to sleep. I would also only change their nappies if they were soiled. Apparently, at this stage it is common for babies to start needing less feeds throughout the night so therefore shouldn’t wake up as often for feeding. HA! Sorry, was that a funny joke? Our babies were certainly not ready to give up their night feeds at this time. And the fact that I knew some babies could, made me feel frustrated. All I wanted was to sleep for more than 3 hours at a time (Pete was back to work so it was harder to work in shifts now).

Swaddling can help a newborn baby to sleep. It mimics them being in the womb and helps them to feel safe and secure. It also stops them jolting and waking themselves up.

Swaddling can help a newborn baby to sleep. It mimics them being in the womb and helps them to feel safe and secure. It also stops them jolting and waking themselves up.

That’s when I started reading lots of different sleep guides on how to help your baby to sleep longer at night. Some suggested giving more milk throughout the day (our babies refused, or would just projectile vomit it back up, probably as a protest to stop making me overfeed them),  give a ‘top up dream feed’ where you feed the babies in their sleep at around 10 or 11 pm in order to help carry them through until the early hours (I tried this several times and I think I was actually disrupting their natural sleep cycle as they would then wake up after 2 or 3 hours for another feed. Greedy monsters) or when they do wake up for their 2am feed, try to pacify them for 10/15 minutes to get them used to having this feed later and in the end not need it until the early hours of the morning (HAVE YOU TRIED THIS WITH TWINS?? To pacify one baby when they’re screaming for a feed at 2am and you’re exhausted would be hard enough, but with TWO BABIES?! Not going to happen).

So guess what we did? Nothing. We just let them wake up for their night feeds. And guess what? It has gradually started to stretch out. At the moment, being 4 months old, they now have their 6pm bottle, go to bed, wake up at around 10.30-11pm, then wake up around 3-4am. It’s not perfect, but we are definitely going in the right direction. I am now feeling calmer about it (if still a little sleepy-eyed) but progress is being made. I am hoping that when we begin weaning and they put on more weight perhaps they will surprise me by sleeping through until 6am (am I asking too much? Maybe. But I can wish).

What Is Your Night Time Routine?

How does this compare with your little one’s night time feeding habits?

 

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What I Love About Being A Twin Mum VS What I Miss From My Child-Free Life

What I Love About Being A Twin Mum VS What I Miss From My Child-Free Life

‘Once you’re a parent, your whole life is going to change’. That’s what everyone kept telling me in the run up to the twins’ arrival. And wow, they were not wrong. In my head I thought ‘it can’t be that bad? Surely I can still have my little set ways and get the babies to loosely fit into our routines?’

HAAAAAA! Sorry, excuse me whilst I laugh at my pre-parent naivety. I hate to break it to all of those parents-to-be…but life really does change when you have babies, quite a lot. Actually, more than you can imagine.

Being a twin mumma has brought along its smiles, hilarities and tribulations. As we have survived keeping the babies alive for a massive five months *high five to that! I began to reflect on how our lives really have changed.

So here are the things that I love about being a twin mumma vs what I miss about my child-free life:

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What are the things that you love about being a parent? What do you miss from your child-free life?

What I Love vs What I Miss

I miss: Being able to make spontaneous plans. I now need at least three weeks notice, and even then I may not actually make it. Probably due to either the babies being sick, I’m exhausted or I’ve been pooed on

I love: Having baby snuggles on the sofa. Their tiny little bodies wrapped around me is everything. I could sit there all day

I miss: How I used to sleep all night. ALL night. Uninterrupted, eight hours of blissful sleep. I miss sleep.

I love: The babies’ gummy, dribbly smiles first thing in the morning (even if they’ve kept me awake all…night…long…)

I miss: My life not being centred around having to wash and sterilise 14 bottles or change 10-16 nappies a day, wash millions of baby clothes daily (HOW can there be that much laundry when their clothes are so small?) or endlessly clear up vomit

I love: When the babies look at each other and smile. Ahhh it makes me go all mushy inside

I miss: Not having to go on quests to extract the biggest baby bogie from the smallest of nostril, just to be sure that it doesn’t stop them from breathing #mumanixety

I love: That newborn baby smell

I miss: Drinking copious amounts of Prosecco like an irresponsible teenager

I love: Checking in on the babies at night and seeing them sleep so peacefully

I miss: Having real adult conversations. Now my husband and I have a daily exchanges of: ‘what colour was his poo this time? Was it runny or solid? How many poos has he had so far today? Did you SMELL that last nappy??’ Romance, right there

I love: The smell of the babies straight after a bath. So clean and fresh

I miss: Not being able to be hungover and feel sorry for myself whilst binging on a whole bucket of KFC and watching back-to-back episodes of Marple

I love: How funny it is when the babies pass wind…they are SO loud (and it normally happens when I’m out and about…)

I miss: Being able to fit into my tiny clothes (why is it that you always think you’re overweight and then when you look back you realise that was total nonsense?)

I love: Not feeling so self-obsessed as I now have two tiny babies to look after

I miss: Having money to spend on unnecessary items (normally wine…)

I love: Earning money for a real purpose

baby twins. boy girl twins 5 month old twins

What highlights do your little ones bring to your life?

I miss: Having free time. Instead it’s a 3-hour schedule: feed, change, sleep, repeat. What did I used to do before having babies?? I wasted SO much time doing nothing…

I love: When they smile and their tiny pegs start showing through their gums. So cute

I miss: How I could leave the house without a care in the world. Now it’s spending 4 hours getting ready to leave (Nappy bag? Tick. Changing mat? Tick. Bottles? Tick. Extra sleep suits? Tick? Two babies? Errr…tick) only to spend approximately 48 minutes out, before you retreat back because the babies are screaming and you’re exhausted

I love: Proudly taking our babies out and about. Although being a twin mum means everyone talks to you…Yes, they are twins, yes it’s a boy and a girl, no of course they’re not identical…it’s a boy and a girl…

I miss: Not having to get dressed in stages as there’s a baby crying / someone’s vomited / I need to express / one baby has got hold of something that they shouldn’t have (how do they do that?) All I want to do is change my underwear, is that so much to ask?

I love: Watching the twin relationship begin to develop. How lucky are they to have each other?

I miss: Not being able to buy clothes because they now count as a luxury item

I love: Buying new sleep suits for the babies to wear. They always look so adorable in them

I miss: Spending all of my time with Pete, my friends and family

I love: Learning how to be our new little family

I miss: Enjoying a hot, leisurely cup of coffee. Instead I now make one of two choices: drink it straight from the kettle and get third degree burns, or have it next week. Either of the two is never appealing to me

I love: That their little personalities are already shining through. We most definitely have a mini me x2! (Beatrice is definitely a busy body and Francis is chilled and very calm)

I miss: Going in and out of shops without thinking twice about the environment set up. Now I regularly get anxious about finding toilets that are big enough to fit me and a double pram into when I’m out and about, or worried that I may not be able to get through the doors of a particular shop. The struggle is real

I love: The joy the twins bring not only to our lives but to our family’s lives too. Seeing the babies with their extended family is the cutest thing

Twin mum and twin babies. Twin mum feeding twin babies. Twin life. Twin babies being fed

Experiences from a twin mumma. What are the things you love about being a mum? What things do you miss from your child-free life?

I miss: Being able to watch the TV and not snot cry into my Kleenex at some missing cat or a slightly sombre piece of music. Blimmin’ hormones

I love: Learning all about motherhood. Every day is most definitely a school day

I miss: Not having a night where I would check on the babies 17 times to make sure that they’re still breathing (I’m sure I will always do this…)

I love: Meeting other mums and learning new tips and tricks from them

I miss: Napping all weekend (can you tell I miss sleep?)

I love: Trying to make our babies giggle. Once you’ve learnt the formula you can’t help yourself but keep going back and trying to make them laugh again and again and again

I miss: Being able to have a long shower (when I say long, I mean, more than 3 uninterrupted minutes. Now I just rush in and out of the bathroom mid shampoo because the baby monitor is going berserk)

I love: Being able to be the person who can comfort my babies

I miss: Looking youthful. Post babies, I now look like a haggard old woman with bags bigger than Aldi and sprouting grey hairs growing out of my head. Sleep deprivation is not kind to you

I love: Having this excuse of being a ‘new mum’ so the messy mum bun is now acceptable

I miss: How my body once was strong and fit…I still can’t kneel on the floor or twist too quickly. A multiple pregnancy is not for the faint hearted

I love: How tiny their little hands and feet are. How can it be possible?

I miss: Smelling of Chanel perfume and Neal’s Yard hand lotion. Baby milky vomit doesn’t quite have the same aroma

I love: That Pete still loves me, even in this post-baby whirlwind

 

What Do You Love and Miss?

What do you love about being a mumma? What are the things you miss from your child-free life?

 

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Life With Twins

Life With 4 Month Old Twins

Have you ever wondered what a day in the life of having twins is like? Would you like answers to questions such as: ‘How do you manage with twins?’ ‘What time do you feed them?’ ‘How often do twins sleep?’ ‘What activities do you do with two babies?’ Well lucky for you, in this post I shall be giving you all a wonderful insight into what life is like with twins.

As the twins are now 4 months old, things are starting to get a little bit more exciting for us. Now, I don’t mean to sound like the last 3 months haven’t been the most whimsical (N.B. They haven’t. I’m tired (understatement), I haven’t washed properly since I entered into my third trimester (have you SEEN how big I was??) and no amount of caffeine or Benefit can cover these bad boy eye bags. I am in a constant state of delirious deja vu: feed feed, nappy nappy, change change, sleep sleep…) Fabulous.

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A day in the life of having twins. Do you wonder how to cope with having twins? The most important thing to do is to keep them on the same schedule. That way you can do the same job at the same time.

 

However now that the twins are a little bit older, they are able to stay awake for more than 20 minutes at a time. This means we can fill up our time with things other than the obvious (that’s if I have the energy…our babies are still feeding all through the night…zzz).

Entering into month 4 was exciting because I could see we were starting to get into a somewhat daily routine. Now, if you haven’t already detected from my last posts, I am a stickler for organisation. Give me a Paperchase planner and a bunch of post-it notes and I’m happier than a postpartum mumma devouring her first glass of chilled Prosecco (well, maybe not quite as excited as that, but you get the picture). I felt like I had some control over what we were doing in this existence of new born delirium. So, here is an overview of a typical day living with twins:

Our Daily Routine

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How to cope with twins. I make sure I feed them at the same time so that they are on the same schedule. Sometimes I even have to burp them at the same time too!

 

Morning

  • 5/6am: First feed of the day. This is delightful because even though I want to stick pins into my eyes as I’m SO TIRED from feeding throughout the night, I am always greeted with slobbery, gummy smiles. All the feels.

  • Nappy change and then back to sleep (not always, if they wish to prolong my sleep deprivation)

  • 9am: Feed, followed by tummy time. They hate this. Literally hate it. They used to just lie there like dead fish. Now their movements resemble something similar to a drunken seal… This drama is then followed with another nap. Twin tip! Always put your babies down to sleep together so that they get used to each other’s noises. That way, they are not disturbed if one becomes grizzly, the other will sleep through it

  • 10.30am: Wake up and time to play with the play gym. It’s wonderful to watch them using this. I have really seen the difference from month 3 to month 4, where before they didn’t have the coordination to do anything with it, now they are able to understand cause and effect: I kick, the monkey wobbles, I smile.

  • *At this point of the day I would start packing the baby changing bag, ready for our afternoon walk. This means boiling water for the formula feeds, decanting formula into pots, sterilising bottles, checking there are enough nappies etc. This helps to make the afternoon run a lot smoother.

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How to go out for a walk with twins. I wear one twin using a baby carrier and then push the other twin in the pram. This makes getting around much easier.

 

Afternoon

  • 12pm: Feed and then out for a walk for the afternoon. YOU NEED TO DO THIS otherwise you will go mad with cabin fever. Yes, this is definitely the hardest part of the day in terms of organisation. Having babies means you are constantly on a time limit, planning in when their next feed is going to be. This means as soon as they have finished their 12pm feed it’s go go GO out of the door as quick as we can as to cram as much in as possible before their next feed strikes.

  • 3pm: (Another!) feed, more tummy time, before they gang up and torture me with the dreaded witching hour. Which, by the way, is a big fat LIE because some days we have witching afternoons. (Do not fret…I have another post about how to survive witching hour coming up in the future!)

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    How to feed twins at night. Have you wondered how to bottle feed your twins during the night? Use curved cushions to keep the babies safely in place so that you can feed both of them at the same time.

Evening

  • 6pm: This is the part of the day where I really do feel like a human conveyor belt. Once I have fed them, I bath one baby whilst the other one sits in the bathroom with us waiting for their turn. I quickly moisturise the first baby, pretend I know how to do baby massage (you just rub the cream in, right?), put them into bed…then it’s onto the next baby. Once both babies are in bed I read them a story, say good night and leave them to settle down to sleep.

    *Don’t be fooled. The twins settling themselves down to sleep at bedtime has been achieved through endless nights of repeating this routine until they learnt that it meant bed time. It doesn’t happen over night so don’t be disheartened if your little one isn’t quite there yet. Routine, routine routine!

  • 10/11pm: Night feed in their cot (using curved cushions, see my earlier posts about feeding twins) and then straight back to sleep.

  • 2/3am: The painful night feed (I CANNOT wait for the twins to drop this feed. I have been reading up on how to help babies sleep for longer. Not. Working. Yet. I still have faith that we will get there in the end (but for now, I live with a large black coffee permanently in my hand…)

  • 5/6am: Aaaaand we do it all over again!

Of course this overview doesn’t take into account the surprise poo explosions or projectile vomit parties. But what it does give you is a little taster into how we fill up our time with our two bundles of joy. I will be interested to see how this differs in a couple more months time.

 

What’s Your Routine?

Are you a new parent? How does your daily routine compare? Let us know in the comments section below!

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