My Birth Story (Part 1)

My Birth Story (Part 1)

My birth story. Something that many people have asked about. And the one subject I haven’t really explored on my blog. Not because I don’t want people to know about it. It just wasn’t a straight forward, picture perfect experience, so it seems a bit of an effort to retell really (but then who does have a straight forward birth story anyway? It’s not like the stork delivers a baby like you’ve primed it and requested next day delivery…) So I guess my story will add to all of the other fabulous, strong women who have endured this crazy adventure into motherhood.

I decided to work as far as I could to my due date so that I would spend as much time as possible with my newborn babies. As if I had planned it (you know I like to be organised), I said goodbye to my fabulous work colleagues on the Friday, bought the last minute baby items over that weekend, finally finished the whole of Gossip Girl on the Monday and  had the twins’ surprise arrival on the Tuesday. I’d say that was pretty good planning.

Twin bump during the second trimester

I chose to work as close to my due date as possible so that I could get as much maternity leave as I could with my babies.

I was 35 weeks plus 5 days when the twins were born. Let me take you back to that time. It was a Monday, my first official day of maternity leave. It was a strange feeling not getting up to go to work, although I must admit, by that time my body was so exhausted carrying two little ones that even breathing was strenuous. So I tried to take it easy. Nap when I needed. Ate when I was hungry. It was now a waiting game.

I remember cooking dinner for Pete as soon as he arrived home from work. It was a typical evening. We sat together, ate dinner, chatted about the day, tidied up and went to bed. The third trimester is an extremely frustrating period as you can never get more than 2 hours sleep at a time due to your poor bladder being forever squashed by your growing bump. As I was getting up every couple of hours to use the bathroom, it meant that Pete was also woken up every two hours. So sleep really was a treat for us.

2.45am I woke up for the 4th time that night to use the loo. As I got into the bathroom my tummy didn’t feel right. Maybe it was something I ate at dinner? That’s when it happened. The moment that you’ve been waiting for throughout the whole of your pregnancy. The sign that your babies are on their way. My waters broke.

Oh. My. Goodness.

It was like I went into ultra efficient mode. I called for Pete, who came stumbling across the hallway in a sleepy state, not knowing what to do. I remember distinctively saying as he fumbled around trying to tap the hospital number into his phone: ‘I am going to be really bossy now, ok?’ Of course the poor thing had no other response than ‘Yes ok’. As soon as he got off the phone to the midwife I started giving the first instruction: ‘Right Pete, you need to get dressed’ ‘Next, please can you make sure my hospital notes are in the bag’ ‘Can you top up my water bottle for the journey?’ the instructions went on. As I brushed my hair (I know, I’m vain, even when I’m about to give birth…) and finished dressing I remember looking around our bedroom one last time thinking: This is going to be the last time we step into this home as a family of two. Totally and utterly bonkers.

We stumbled into our uber, sat in the back holding hands and giggled to each other. This was so surreal. I was surprisingly really calm as I wasn’t having any contractions (lucky for Pete I’d say). With it being just after 3am, the streets were very quiet so the drive was very smooth. When we arrived at the hospital we had to wander the hallways trying to find the right ward. We went up to one floor, realised that wasn’t the correct one, so had to hobble my way back down to the floor below (remembering that my waters had actually burst so I really needed to see someone quiet urgently).

top-surface

I wanted to make sure that everything was ready and prepared for the twins’ arrival.

Eventually we found the correct ward, took a seat and waited to go in. There was a young girl and her boyfriend also waiting to be taken in. She was having regular contractions bless her and her poor partner had no idea what to do. He just paced the floor, nervous sweat dripping from his forehead, obviously wishing for a midwife to appear soon to save him (and obviously his girlfriend) from this ordeal. I know it’s us women that go through the labour but I do feel for the partners who have to stand back and be a spare part, not having the slightest idea on how to actually be helpful. I felt for them. Surprisingly we were actually taken through first, it seemed having twins gives you a free pass.

The hours went by and many different midwives, doctors and consultants came to speak to us. After having a scan they explained that although Twin 1 (we didn’t know the gender) was in the head down position, ready to be delivered, Twin 2 had decided to wedge their feet underneath Twin 1’s head, therefore creating a blockage (can you guess which baby was Twin 2?). So delivery by cesarean section it was.

It happened to be an audit day for the hospital which meant there were no scheduled operations in theatre…so we were able to get gowned up and taken straight down.

Oh my. We are actually going to have babies…like RIGHT NOW. So, so surreal. I don’t think I processed it really. Pete and I just went along with what the doctors were telling us to do.

That’s when we started walking down the corridor towards the theatre room.

Here we go.

Find out what happens next in Part 2, coming up next week!

 

What Was Your Birthing Experience?

What was your birthing experience like?

 

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What I Love About Being A Twin Mum VS What I Miss From My Child-Free Life

What I Love About Being A Twin Mum VS What I Miss From My Child-Free Life

‘Once you’re a parent, your whole life is going to change’. That’s what everyone kept telling me in the run up to the twins’ arrival. And wow, they were not wrong. In my head I thought ‘it can’t be that bad? Surely I can still have my little set ways and get the babies to loosely fit into our routines?’

HAAAAAA! Sorry, excuse me whilst I laugh at my pre-parent naivety. I hate to break it to all of those parents-to-be…but life really does change when you have babies, quite a lot. Actually, more than you can imagine.

Being a twin mumma has brought along its smiles, hilarities and tribulations. As we have survived keeping the babies alive for a massive five months *high five to that! I began to reflect on how our lives really have changed.

So here are the things that I love about being a twin mumma vs what I miss about my child-free life:

Mum and baby twins. Baby boy girl twins with mum

What are the things that you love about being a parent? What do you miss from your child-free life?

What I Love vs What I Miss

I miss: Being able to make spontaneous plans. I now need at least three weeks notice, and even then I may not actually make it. Probably due to either the babies being sick, I’m exhausted or I’ve been pooed on

I love: Having baby snuggles on the sofa. Their tiny little bodies wrapped around me is everything. I could sit there all day

I miss: How I used to sleep all night. ALL night. Uninterrupted, eight hours of blissful sleep. I miss sleep.

I love: The babies’ gummy, dribbly smiles first thing in the morning (even if they’ve kept me awake all…night…long…)

I miss: My life not being centred around having to wash and sterilise 14 bottles or change 10-16 nappies a day, wash millions of baby clothes daily (HOW can there be that much laundry when their clothes are so small?) or endlessly clear up vomit

I love: When the babies look at each other and smile. Ahhh it makes me go all mushy inside

I miss: Not having to go on quests to extract the biggest baby bogie from the smallest of nostril, just to be sure that it doesn’t stop them from breathing #mumanixety

I love: That newborn baby smell

I miss: Drinking copious amounts of Prosecco like an irresponsible teenager

I love: Checking in on the babies at night and seeing them sleep so peacefully

I miss: Having real adult conversations. Now my husband and I have a daily exchanges of: ‘what colour was his poo this time? Was it runny or solid? How many poos has he had so far today? Did you SMELL that last nappy??’ Romance, right there

I love: The smell of the babies straight after a bath. So clean and fresh

I miss: Not being able to be hungover and feel sorry for myself whilst binging on a whole bucket of KFC and watching back-to-back episodes of Marple

I love: How funny it is when the babies pass wind…they are SO loud (and it normally happens when I’m out and about…)

I miss: Being able to fit into my tiny clothes (why is it that you always think you’re overweight and then when you look back you realise that was total nonsense?)

I love: Not feeling so self-obsessed as I now have two tiny babies to look after

I miss: Having money to spend on unnecessary items (normally wine…)

I love: Earning money for a real purpose

baby twins. boy girl twins 5 month old twins

What highlights do your little ones bring to your life?

I miss: Having free time. Instead it’s a 3-hour schedule: feed, change, sleep, repeat. What did I used to do before having babies?? I wasted SO much time doing nothing…

I love: When they smile and their tiny pegs start showing through their gums. So cute

I miss: How I could leave the house without a care in the world. Now it’s spending 4 hours getting ready to leave (Nappy bag? Tick. Changing mat? Tick. Bottles? Tick. Extra sleep suits? Tick? Two babies? Errr…tick) only to spend approximately 48 minutes out, before you retreat back because the babies are screaming and you’re exhausted

I love: Proudly taking our babies out and about. Although being a twin mum means everyone talks to you…Yes, they are twins, yes it’s a boy and a girl, no of course they’re not identical…it’s a boy and a girl…

I miss: Not having to get dressed in stages as there’s a baby crying / someone’s vomited / I need to express / one baby has got hold of something that they shouldn’t have (how do they do that?) All I want to do is change my underwear, is that so much to ask?

I love: Watching the twin relationship begin to develop. How lucky are they to have each other?

I miss: Not being able to buy clothes because they now count as a luxury item

I love: Buying new sleep suits for the babies to wear. They always look so adorable in them

I miss: Spending all of my time with Pete, my friends and family

I love: Learning how to be our new little family

I miss: Enjoying a hot, leisurely cup of coffee. Instead I now make one of two choices: drink it straight from the kettle and get third degree burns, or have it next week. Either of the two is never appealing to me

I love: That their little personalities are already shining through. We most definitely have a mini me x2! (Beatrice is definitely a busy body and Francis is chilled and very calm)

I miss: Going in and out of shops without thinking twice about the environment set up. Now I regularly get anxious about finding toilets that are big enough to fit me and a double pram into when I’m out and about, or worried that I may not be able to get through the doors of a particular shop. The struggle is real

I love: The joy the twins bring not only to our lives but to our family’s lives too. Seeing the babies with their extended family is the cutest thing

Twin mum and twin babies. Twin mum feeding twin babies. Twin life. Twin babies being fed

Experiences from a twin mumma. What are the things you love about being a mum? What things do you miss from your child-free life?

I miss: Being able to watch the TV and not snot cry into my Kleenex at some missing cat or a slightly sombre piece of music. Blimmin’ hormones

I love: Learning all about motherhood. Every day is most definitely a school day

I miss: Not having a night where I would check on the babies 17 times to make sure that they’re still breathing (I’m sure I will always do this…)

I love: Meeting other mums and learning new tips and tricks from them

I miss: Napping all weekend (can you tell I miss sleep?)

I love: Trying to make our babies giggle. Once you’ve learnt the formula you can’t help yourself but keep going back and trying to make them laugh again and again and again

I miss: Being able to have a long shower (when I say long, I mean, more than 3 uninterrupted minutes. Now I just rush in and out of the bathroom mid shampoo because the baby monitor is going berserk)

I love: Being able to be the person who can comfort my babies

I miss: Looking youthful. Post babies, I now look like a haggard old woman with bags bigger than Aldi and sprouting grey hairs growing out of my head. Sleep deprivation is not kind to you

I love: Having this excuse of being a ‘new mum’ so the messy mum bun is now acceptable

I miss: How my body once was strong and fit…I still can’t kneel on the floor or twist too quickly. A multiple pregnancy is not for the faint hearted

I love: How tiny their little hands and feet are. How can it be possible?

I miss: Smelling of Chanel perfume and Neal’s Yard hand lotion. Baby milky vomit doesn’t quite have the same aroma

I love: That Pete still loves me, even in this post-baby whirlwind

 

What Do You Love and Miss?

What do you love about being a mumma? What are the things you miss from your child-free life?

 

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